JuSt us..

This morning I woke up headed out the door to make my rounds for work. As I started driving I started thinking how this was perfect opportunity to turn on and listen to my Tony Robbins. My friend introduced me to Tony Robbins and downloaded 'the power of relationships' Audio to my iPod. He is fantastic! I highly recommend him to EVERYONE.

As I am trying to make a conscious effort to be the best I can be with my situations given. I have found myself time and time again feeling so overwhelmed with what is on my plate. Which in turn has made me have to refocus positive attention on what Negativity I may be enduring. OR causing myself to endure. As I was listening to this Audio he is talking about how we as humans are the only ones who make something out of nothing. WE stress ourselves out. And I know this.. or subconsciously know this anyway but i think my little streak of OCD takes over and if something stresses me out I know I tend to let it have a ripple effect on everything else. Just as if I head home from work and come home and the house is torn apart, I tend to think 'ohh man! my life is a mess!'. BUT its just the house... nothing that cant be picked up in a matter of minutes. But here I am making something out of nothing, so instead of taking my time focusing on the fact I have been away from my children and take the time to play with them for a minute I start picking up.. getting frustrated. Then it goes from there which makes my day seem like an exhausting, overwhelming hard working day. Instead of ENJOYING what is there. Now I REALLY try to work on this as often as I can. And Im not saying this is an EVERY day occurance but its definately something I know I need to work on. Enjoying the simplicity of life. Not making something out of nothing! I think many of us get into this mode. At least I Hope Im not the only one ;).

Something he was talking about for some reason struck me profoundly. I dont know why because again.. its something I know, but it clicked. We as humans have an ultimate goal... which is to feel, be and give LOVE. Without it we die inside. Our evolution process has only caused us to need this. A baby will not survive without it and as we get older it is just as important to our survival. He continued, and talked about a father of quintuplets who was maybe 30 but looked 50. The TV reporter interviewing him asked him what the secret was to handling them and raising so many children. He told her 'Dont have too many rules. If you have too many rules they are always breaking something youre always in Reaction! You should have the least amount of rules for raising kids'. I thought about this seriously. What he was getting at was moreso to do with relationships but I thought about this with my own children. My brother asked me at Sunday dinner what I did to help make Alyssa so.. perfect. She is the most respectful, well mannered girl... EVER. And I thought Really.. Alyssa has received soo much love in her life why would she choose to be anything but what she is?! I believe she has had such an amazing amount of love given to her by ALL of her family she has hardly had ANY rules nor has she broken any rules. Which when thinking about that statement from the father of the quin's I had to absolutely 100% agree with it. Which was inspiring to me! I think about my sweet little balls of energy (my boys) and I almost feel like I work so much and when I come home and have all these 'rules' to abide by and I am not focusing my attention on them, what are they going to do?! Break those rules in order to receive the attention ( I totally think these same things apply for adults just in a different way). And Like I said.. this is something I know, but yet have struggled with and something I KNOW I need to work on, as well as other plenty of other things. I am always trying to do fun things with my kids. Every day I really try to fit in a certain amount of time to them doing something active for their sake. And I notice when I do this they are nothing but AWESOME!! So what I think my conclusion is, and for an answer to my brother... 'eliminate as many rules as possible'. Enjoy life. Enjoy the Chaos, Enjoy the MeSS of it... Because when you do that things will be exactly opposite of that. And most importantly make sure you are giving LoVE. Love makes the world go round. We all need it and moreso we all need to give it. What is the purpose in life if we arent giving???? Thats when things spiral down for us. "Living a life for others is a life worth living".

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